Girl Talk | Seven Things Women Do That Men Just Don't Understand

As a woman, there are many mildly irritating encounters we face daily, and being realistic, men and their way of thinking are up there with the most annoying of those. There are certain things we as women do that make perfect sense to us yet to men they seem completely irrational. We've all been there, you see a little old man eating alone in public which almost brings you to tears, however your boyfriend has no idea why this makes you sad and starts to make fun of you for being so sensitive, and you're left wondering 'But how can he not see what I see?!'. Never fear ladies, here is where I come to the rescue, to stand up for all womankind. 

In order to give the male species a little insight to the inner workings our female mind I have compiled together a list of the small things we do along with the reasons behind why we do it, and furthermore a little explanation as to why we find it so damn frustrating that men can't understand our logic behind it. So here it is, my open letter to the male species. 

Bringing Your Bag to The Toilet 

I have lost count of the amount of awkward encounters I have faced when simply trying to bring my handbag/school bag to the bathroom with me. This particular incident is something that I am sure has happened to every school girl. You have your period and ask your male teacher if you can go to the bathroom during class so you can ahem 'freshen up', he gives you permission and you proceed towards the door with your schoolbag in hand, easy sailing. But all of a sudden said male teacher asks why you are bringing your bag with you and that you should probably just leave it here, completely unaware of the fact that you are profusely bleeding from your special area and need to change your tampon asap before there is a bloody disaster all over your school uniform. But of course that is far too awkward to say, so instead you smile, leave your schoolbag down and carry on to the toilet where you then must come up with creative ways to stop the blood flow from escaping your underwear. 

So men, the next time you see a female bring a bag to the toilet with you, say nothing. 

The Back Of The Trousers Check 

While we are on the topic of periods, another thing that men just do not understand is the back of the trousers check. Every single woman on this planet knows exactly what this is, it is the holy gospel of girl code. You have your period and ask your girl friend to have a cheeky look at your bum just to make sure there are no code red situations happening, job done in 0.2 seconds. Men, not so subtle at this check. First of all you have to explain the logic to them, when eventually they get the idea into their heads 15 minutes later they then make this check the most obvious movement on the planet. Furthermore even after this they cannot be trusted to have done the job right. 

If there is one thing women know about men, it is that they say things that are untrue because they believe it is what we want to hear. So with that logic, if there was any blood on your trousers they will more than likely tell you that there is not just to keep you happy. I can't. 

Taking The Perfect Instagram Picture

For a lot of women the feeling of getting the perfect instagram snap is equal to the feeling of winning the lottery, it is seriously that important. However, men do not understand this. While it is frustrating enough to find the perfect lighting, the perfect background AND the perfect pose what is eveeen more frustrating is a moaning boyfriend taking the picture. It might take best part of an hour to get the perfect image that is instagram worthy, but it is well worth the effort, believe me. Also - when we say to take A picture we mean take an upward of ten, not literally one, we're not that good. 

We Think Everything Is Cute 

Dogs, bunnies, shoes, tiny salt and pepper shakers, everything is cute to us. To you they may seem like insignificant and inanimate objects, but to us they are just so tiny and precious and we love them. To be honest, I can't even explain our logic behind this, it just is what it is. Accept it. 

The Need For Every Detail

Why, when men tell a story do they completely omit the important details within that story and skip straight to the 'good' part. Women need details. What were you wearing? What was the weather like? What exactly, word. for. word. did the other person say? Men, please understand our need for the tiny details, they may seem insignificant to you but to us they are the most important aspect of a story.

We Are Detectives
Continuing on from the above statement, women live for details because it is these tiny details that lead us on our little detective way to forensic oblivion. Men seem to constantly underestimate our ability to take on the smallest detail and run with that, finding out whatever we need to and more along the way. The sooner the male sex understands this the better.

Not Showering 

This, this irritates me. Boys may be able to shower 7 times a day without giving it a second thought, but we cannot do this. What males don't understand is that showering for women is a whole process that takes strategic planning and organising, this is not a spur of the moment kind of thing. Every female has set hair washing days because THAT SHIT TAKES TIME. You may be able to use a 2 in 1 tesco brand shampoo and conditioner and allow 3 minutes for your hair to dry naturally after a shower. But women need roughly 5 hair care products both during and after a shower and then must allow 50 minutes for styling afterwards. So the next time your girlfriend skips a shower and reaches for the dry shampoo instead, please do not judge.

Although it was difficult to narrow down my list to just seven things that men do not understand about women, I could probably create a whole new list on the things women don't understand about men. Ugh, I give up.

Previous posts in my girl talk series: 
Things I Learned When I Stopped Waring Bras
The Menstrual Cup
11 Thoughts Every Girl Has On Her Period
Here's To The Girls Who Don't Wear Makeup
Lets Talk About Body Hair

Have a lovely Thursday!
Adele x

Instagram Roundup | April

Oh man am I glad to see the back of April, between college and exam stress and other issues it has not been the most enjoyable month. In between all that mayhem I did however manage to dye my hair pink/peach, and a post all about this is soon to come in the next couple weeks, along with lots of other posts I have planned. 

On a side note, I would love if you all left me a little note below on what kind of posts you want to see from me in the upcoming months. I am open to any suggestions! 

Adele x

The Beauty Post | Getting out of a rut with NARS Luminous Weightless Foundation

I never thought I would see the day that I sit on my tiny bed and write up a blog post about foundation. For the past few years I have given up wearing foundation. As a girl who once suffered from acne, I feel like it is wrong to cover up my skin with layers of a nude paste now that my skin has finally become clear again. 

But, lately I have been feeling very unsatisfied with my appearance and how I did my make up. I will spend an hour or two putting on make up and trying different styles only to hate it in the end and prefer how I looked before the winged eyeliner and badly contoured cheeks, which is good but surely the whole point of make up is to make you feel better about yourself, not worse (I made a post on these feelings here). So with that I thought maybe it was time to venture back to a foundation and actually become happy with how I apply my make up, and not a cheap drugstore one that I used when I was 15 no, a big girl high end one. 

The Product 

Having done my research I went out and bought myself the NARS Luminous Weightless Foundation and the shade I picked up was Punjab. The product claims to give a full but natural coverage, creating an instantly polished look. I paid 45 euro for it, which is pretty damn expensive as far as I am concerned but I loved how it makes other peoples skin look so I thought it was worth a try and seeing as I don't wear make up all that often I will probably get pretty good wear out of it. 

Does it work?

Yes. However, I do have some slight issues with it that I will get to later. To apply it I use my blending brush and then go back over that with a beauty blender to make sure that everything is as blended and natural looking as possible. The colour is a perfect match for my skin tone once I add one or two pumps of the body shop's foundation lightener, I got a shade slightly darker than my natural skin tone because I often wear tan and this way my face will always match my body. The foundation is a crazy watery formula and is really easy to blend on my face. It lasts pretty well, it does wear a little throughout the day as expected but generally it stays put. 

                            

So to keep things short, I do like this product. It is blendable, it can be easily built up and it gives me coverage without looking or feeling caked. However, I slightly dislike the fact that it is high coverage. Although it looks natural and definitely does not feel heavy, my skin is pretty clear and could do with a lighter product. Another thing that I slightly dislike it is the fact that it is a little matte, this isn't a huge deal because I can mix a highlighter into it and give myself more of a glow but generally when I wear make up I like to have a dewy look and this product does not really give me that on it's own. 

Final Thoughts

To round things up. I like this product, I am glad I have bought it and with it I have been lifted out of my makeup rut, however I would probably not buy it again once it has ran out. I think this product is perfect for someone with acne or scarring that is looking to cover them up but for me this is not what I am looking for.

Maybe next time I will try their sheer glow foundation or maybe a different high end brand altogether, but I will continue on in my quest to find my perfect foundation. 

If you have any foundation recommendations for me please leave them down below, I would love for you to help me out! 

Have a lovely Sunday

Adele x

The Fashion Post | Pyjama Shirt and Striped Culottes

Shirt: Boohoo (similar) Trousers:Boohoo (similar) Boots: Vintage Handbag: Vintage

If you follow me in instagram you will be aware of my love for this shirt. The pyjama trend is probably one of my favourite trends that is happening in fashion right now. I mean, why would you not want to wear a silk pyjama shirt in public and use 'fashion' as justification?? Styling it is a little difficult however because I don't want to be that knob that thinks they're all fashion-y and cool enough to pull off a whole pyjama look but then again comfort is probably my number one priority in life. So I thought hey I look like a bit of a dick wearing a gold pyjama top anyway, why not go the whole hog and pair it with some trousers that could be mistaken for pyjamas too? 

I have 0 regrets - ladies, the comfort level of this outfit is through the roof. If you like fashion and eating until it feels like your trousers will rip open, I suggest investing in some pyjama style attire asap. 

I hope you are all having a lovely Easter Sunday! 

Adele x

The Life Post | 5 Things A Wifi Free Weekend Taught Me

As I briefly mentioned in my Galway post, roughly a month ago myself and my boyfriend had a weekend away where we turned our wifi off and locked our phones away in a drawer. Although my boyfriend broke his side of the deal and had a sneaky look on facebook once or twice, I kept up my part and had no access to any internet or social media for the duration of the trip. Through my technology detox I experienced a number of different things and I thought I would share a few of them with you.

Improved Conversation

Not having a phone to look at throughout dinner during the evening meant that myself and my boyfriend actually had to speak to each other (I know, can you believe it!?). Okay that might sound a little dramatic but instead of filling any silences by aimlessly scrolling through my instagram feed, I filled it by asking questions, coming up with conversation and being there in the moment. With this I also looked around and noted the amount of couples sitting around me glued to their phones while they wait for their food to be brought out and this made me a little sad to realise that that is how we usually look. Maybe a no phone at meal time rule needs to be put in place. 

What's the Time?!

Another I learned is that without my phone I literally have no idea what time it is. Through this I also realised that there is a serious lack of clocks in places like restaurants and bars. I know there is a simple solution to this and it is called a watch, but I did not think this through and pretty much spent my entire weekend wondering what time it was. 

Notifications Make Me Anxious

Something I didn't realise before this weekend was that having my phone constantly beside me, buzzing every 10 minutes makes me feel like I am in a constant state of unease. It never really feels like I am completely alone and although some people may feel that this is a good thing I do not. Feeling the constant urge to look at a phone screen to see who liked my new instagram picture is damaging anyone's mental being, and I think realising this is the first step in changing it. 

  

How It Feels To Be Relaxed 

Through realising that my phone quite often makes me anxious, I learned what it really feels like to be relaxed. While I was away I felt a overwhelming feeling of relaxation and distance from reality for the few days we were there. As soon as I turned my wifi on again when I was back in Dublin I was receiving messages about college work that was due and my feeling of relaxation was suddenly a distant memory. This made me think that maybe turning my phone off for an hour or so every now and again might just do my mental health a great deal of good. 

I Had To THINK

The epitome of first world problems eh? Basically whenever I needed to know something I actually had to think about it rather than reaching for my smart phone and letting google do the job for me.

Do you often switch off from technology? If so what have you learned from it? 

Adele x

The Fashion Post | Men, I May Not Know. But Shoes, Shoes I Know.

Shoes, shoes, shoes. These little things I have had a love/hate relationship with when it comes to fashion. While I sit there for hours trolling Asos for dainty little barely there's, my sensible inner voice screams just thinking about how uncomfortable they would be. However more recently I have been falling more and more in love with heels and I thought I would dedicate a whole post to these pretty little things, one that Carrie Bradshaw herself would be proud of. 

Also if you got the title of the post, well done you. 

Gold Barely There's | Pink Block Heel | Flared Block Heel | Pink Pumps | Rose Gold Block Heel | Pink Ankle Cut Off Heel | Leather Boot | Orange Court Shoe | Pink Suede Mules | Patent Mary Janes | Red Sling Backs | Charcoal Block Heel | Pink Slingback Heel | Leopard Print T-Bar Heel | Fabric Knot Mules | Mid Heel Court Shoe | Lace Up Heels | Sling Back Court Shoes | V - Cut Midi Heel | Red Suede Heel

In recent months I have discovered a happy medium between wanting to wear pretty heels and wanting to have the ability to walk, and that comes in the form of midi heels. As you can see above I have included a tonne of different variations of midi heels, from mules to sling backs that are all over the fashion world lately and I am in love. Something I like to do to add a bit of interest to an outfit is to pop on a pair of shoes with a bright colour or bold print, pulling together any look I might have. Pastel midi heels and leopard print pumps are always a safe place to start.
 Another thing that makes me happy other than the shoes themselves are websites such as StyleWe and Fsjshoes which I have found recently that stock amazing and affordable heels, it is nice to have other places to look other than the usual Asos and Topshop kind of places, variety is the spice of life n'all that. 

Well I hope this has provided you with enough shoe porn for today. Now all these beauties need to do is magically appear in my wardrobe, plz and tnx. 

Happy Sunday everyone! 

Adele x